[Nothing in
this post should be construed to mean that I have the slightest sympathy for people
who gang up to harass, abuse, hurt and humiliate the weak – by which I mean not only young girls but children, old
people of both sexes, the disabled, the ill and even the lone man against the mob…
we too easily forget that young girls are not the only victims of abuse! A lot
of people of the type who are now up in arms in defence of this girl find it
quite right and enjoyable to beat a petty thief to death or close if he is
unlucky enough to get caught: I have seen this again and again with my own eyes]
For one
thing, the so-called video looks much less like a genuine molestation scene
than a grotesque pantomime in slow motion: in this age of the uncouth and the absurd, courtesy kinky cinema and mindless ad flicks, surely most sane readers will
agree that much weirder things can be ‘arranged’? This suspicion grows strong
when one sees how quickly politicians have got into the mutual mudslinging act,
how the police still haven’t picked up the main accused, and how the National
Commission for Women seems at a loss about what to do (this evening I heard it
has recommended that the government ‘rehabilitate’ the girl with a job. For god’s
sake!)
Secondly,
molesters rarely allow themselves and their dastardly act to be filmed for the
record at length – unless the whole thing
is premeditated for a purpose (Amitabh Bachchan has asked in his blog how
a TV crew was so promptly on the spot). I have been on the news beat (real
news, not covering models doing the catwalk or launching new brands of shampoo),
and I know that the far commoner reaction is to take away the camera and beat
up the man behind it.
Thirdly, ‘assaulted
and molested for half an hour before she was rescued by some passers-by’? How
could a girl be assaulted and molested in public for half an hour? And who were
these ‘passers-by’ who then rescued her? Were they a bigger mob, or armed
policemen, or a few braveheart do-gooders? What took them so long, and how did
they persuade the ‘molesters’ to let the girl go?
Fourthly,
some reports say the girl was a minor: so what was she doing in a pub? Why did
they throw her out only when she couldn’t pay? It even seems she had been
brawling drunkenly on the street with some of her friends, and it is some of
these ‘friends’ who then turned on her (some are even saying that one of these
friends was the reporter who told the cameraman to start shooting; the fellow
has resigned from his job even before formal charges have been brought against
him!). What kind of people did she choose as friends? Everybody is screaming
about her rights and how they have been violated – what about some talk of
responsibility? What kind of responsibility did this girl take for her own
safety? What kind of parents let
their 17-year old kid out for a night on the tiles? Why don’t people who want
that kind of ‘fun’ – no matter whether they are young or old – calmly accept
the fact that it goes with certain kinds of risks? Nobody accuses ‘society’ of
neglect or abuse when a bungee-jumper dies because the rope broke!
And
finally, all this talk about how journalists were involved, and what they
should and shouldn’t have done fills me with deep disgust. Any honest reporter
admits in private that ninety per cent of what they are accused of is true:
they are only concerned with finding or actually creating sensation, because
that alone sells, and that alone is
what ultimately matters. In the newsroom we talked about posto – slang (in those days, I don’t know what it is now) for
concocted or grossly embellished news, and how most of our pages were routinely
filled with such stuff. I shall narrate
just two fairly recent incidents here, both in Durgapur. But let’s keep that for
the next post…
So what am
I missing here? Those who have been following the unfolding story more closely,
would they care to enlighten me? Catcalls, wolf-whistles, lewd remarks, surreptitious
groping in buses, yes (disgusting as all that is), but girls are not as a rule suddenly molested on city
streets by gangs, else all the hundreds of girls who have been coming alone to
my classes for years would have stopped coming long ago. Why did this happen? And what really happened?
12 comments:
Dear Suvro Sir,
Your clarity of thought continues to amaze me. The more I read your blogs (and I have been reading them for quite a few years now!) the more that feeling grows. I have been following this incident on and off, yet how couldn't I smell a rat? But when you say it, the way you say it, it all seems to fit (and please allow me to say that you sound so much like Sherlock Holmes in this post). You must have a theory and I am very curious to know what it is.
Sorry, if that wasn't relevant to the post, but I couldn't contain myself from saying it.
About your first three points, I don't think anyone can argue. To speak of the point after, it amazes me that people can live such reckless lives and be brazen about it and fail to accept the consequences of it. The young gun who rides his bike at 100kmph and doesn't wear a helmet is mourned for his death and the girl who dresses obscenely, goes to a pub and makes 'friends' with the kind of people who represent the lewdest forms of perversion, sadism and bestiality, must be 'rehabilitated' (of course. What else! That's the politically correct thing to say, isn't it?) for her 'sufferings'.
Sir, your last-but-one paragraph reminds me of a story I had read long ago. There, a dacoit used to disguise himself as a beggar, go seeking for alms and commit his thievery once the gullible people had been adequately fooled. This continued to happen until a wise man admonished him saying that his actions will make humanity lose its faith of all beggars. I wonder Sir, if everybody keeps running after only what sells, who will cover the real news and talk about the plight of those who are really weak and oppressed.
Sayan Datta
Dear Suvro Sir,
To elaborate on my previous comment, I think it is the worst kind of parents who can send their minor child to a pub at night. How low must a person's sense of self-worth be to derive 'fun' from something as low and base as this? Why should a seventeen year old minor 'need' to go to a pub to have fun? Shouldn't youngsters be indulging themselves in activities healthy for the body and the mind at their age? Isn't it the duty of the parents to correct the child if he/she goes wayward? How utterly callous must her parents be and also how utterly foolish to allow such kind of 'freedom'? I think her parents must be shallow people themselves who indulge in late-night partying and party-hopping to approve of such kind of 'fun' - the probability lies in that direction. Amidst what folly are we living! I can jump off a cliff, and then complain that the rock was hard if I die!
About journalists creating sensationalism – I am reminded of a movie I had watched some time ago called ‘State Of Play’, where, Russell Crowe (who plays the role of the ‘old world journalist’) takes up the cudgel for justice and truth against his friend and Congressman, when he realizes that he (the congressman) is involved in a dark plot. It pains him to do this, but he does it nonetheless (this movie reminds me a bit O’ Henry’s short story ‘After twenty years’). Even in this world, is it that difficult to have a little bit of morality?
Sayan Datta
Dear Sir,
There are a lot of holes in the story, as you have rightly pointed out. Although I am prepared to concede that our streets are not entirely safe for women, it seems rather unbelievable that the girl was molested openly in the streets for half an hour before one brave newspaper editor miraculously rescued her from the violent mob.
And on the subject of taking responsibility for our own actions, while I have seen several feminists and feminist organizations foaming at their mouths over how cruel and patriarchal our society is, not even one of them has stepped forward to honestly admit to the fact that inebriated teenage girls should not roam around near seedy bars in the middle of the night. If they do, and heaven forbid, if something bad happens, then let's not cry foul and turn this into a gender thing. I can't imagine such a huge uproar if a male gets mugged in some back alley of a pub late at night, even in most developed cities like London or New York. If anything, he would be called a moron and his common sense will be questioned. So let's have some accountability for the girl's action in this case as well, especially since feminists everywhere insist so much on treating both genders equally.
Thanks,
Joydeep
Thanks, Sayan and Joydeep. Yes, the suspicion grows stronger every day. Sayan, I can vouch for the insanity of millions of neo-rich parents - they have little education and less common sense; engineers who have got through school and college by cramming for exams at best, government employees or petty businessmen who have grown fat on bribes and crooked deals at worst. What kind of parenting can they do beyond giving their spoilt, wanton kids wads of cash and telling them to go away and 'enjoy' themselves in any way they know? Joydeep, absolutely right: when a man gets abused/beaten/robbed for being at the wrong place at the wrong time, he's just a moron who deserves no pity, but when the same sort of thing happens to a female, she has been exploited by a 'patriarchal' society. If this thing had happened to a boy of 17, I wonder how big a talking point it would have become countrywide? Talk about double standards!
I am aware that a lot of people who sometimes read my blogs have been very vocal with their opinions on Facebook and twitter on this issue: why are they so wary about commenting here? Is it because ranting is easy, but answering reason with reason is very hard, and much less 'cool'?
Dear Sir,
Had i not read this post I would have still been cursing the men accused of molestation in Guwahati.It had striken me as to how the incident was videotaped so elaborately but another of these filty cases(the incidents of rape and molestation are on a rise after the Park Street case,I find)made me put the thought of it being somewhat set up at the back of my mind.It is true Sir that most of the girls(including some of my batchmates)love to draw people's attention towards them,put on clothes and attitude which are not really decent for that purpose but then feel'insulted'on being greeted by lewd comments by loafers on the road.If they really dislike it so much why don't they change some of their own habits?I have been travelling by public buses since I was in class 8 and have on some occasions been disturbed by sick boys(and men!)but scorn looks and a few harsh words have solved such matters.Yes,at times it is frightening to confront these sick and unemployed people but I feel enough caution on our part can help.And as you have said many times Sir,of girls coming to your classes in cars and with parents,I the parents know that they cannot trust their children completely and hence never allow them to grow up.It is just sad that I can share these views with only a few of my batchmates!
Thanks for commenting, Sunandini. Notice how very few have bothered to do as much - though lots of them have been writing inane or vicious things about it on Facebook and twitter! Blind politically correct abuse and violence is what passes for commentary these days: kill all men, lock up all the girls, put all the journalists in prison, that sort of stuff. It makes me wonder just how such people can imagine that they are 'educated'...
and yes, both you and I know all about how a lot of girls find it great 'fun' to provoke lewd men with glad eyes, but they can't take it when the attention becomes too close and personal! Just walk around any shopping mall during crowded hours. You will be amused to hear what the typical feminist defence of this is - it's a girl's 'right' to go about half naked if she wants to, but men are 'bad' if they notice too much. Both my wife and daughter have told me that while some men are pigs and would try to molest even the most decently dressed and well behaved woman, it is also true that a certain type of girl - becoming more numerous by the day - makes one roll one's eyes, with her licentious behaviour in public even more than her clothes. We call them chhele hyanglaa, gaaye pora meye.
But this post had a request in it: if someone knows a little more about what really happened in Guwahati that night, s/he may please tell me about it. Apparently no one knows any more than I do. Well, I shall go by the law rather than mob psychology, then, give all involved the benefit of the doubt, and refuse to believe that this was a genuine case of gang molestation until I see more and convincing evidence!
Dear Sir,
After reading your post and two of the links you mentioned, I watched a footage of the video. I have a few thoughts after that.
Just as you mentioned in the beginning of the post the behaviour of the crowd was disgusting. The only thing that could evoke a worse emotion, that of terror, is a mob on a destructive spree, like in a riot. Regardless of the context, the behaviour of the bunch of people acting under free will was simply detestable and unacceptable.
One of the links raises very pertinent questions in the end and after the recent spate of scandals surrounding politicians (that came to light) I wouldn't be surprised if this were one more.
In the US or the UK, when one goes to a bar or a shop to buy alcohol, they always ask for proof of age. In India, I have never ever been asked for age-proof while purchasing alcohol. So I am not surprised that the girl and her friends could get in and then get inebriated.
While I was in college, I met plenty of people who were physically adults, but children mentally. Among other things, they used to liberally spend their parents' money on alcohol and cigarettes. I met some of them later and they seem to be more responsible. Life probably taught them more than their parents ever could. The parents of the girl might or might not have done a very good job of raising her, but the fact that an under-age person wanted to buy alcohol is, in my opinion, just the case of the forbidden fruit being tempting. I think she was simply stupid to go to such a sketchy place.
I think modesty in dressing is an extremely subjective matter. While certain kinds of clothes are perfectly acceptable in the US, they might be considered preposterous on the streets of India. But from what I have heard, when women dress up in a certain manner here, it is because they want men to take notice and apparently they like it when men do. The same cannot be said of in our country. In any case, I can't accept someone sexually assaulting a woman under any circumstance (including the way she's dressed up). So, until both the women dressing up, and the people for whom they are doing so grow up, I would suggest, for their own safety, that they maintain a ward-robe that is considered modest in our country just for their own sakes.
Coming back to the crowd, I had the misfortune of travelling to Kolkata once on the day of a political rally being held in that city. Buses weren't plying because of this reason and the trip was unavoidable. So I had to take the train and it was full of jobless uncouth people who were going to attend the 'meeting'. I had a seat reserved but the people on board wouldn't let me get to it though there was enough room for a person to squeeze through. Every time I tried to go ahead, they would push me back and then they started having fun at my expense, mocking me and being the nasty yahoos that they were. I did get to the brink of losing my mind a few times, but better sense prevailed and I said nothing. I was outnumbered and anything I said or did would have been used against me. Under similar circumstances (but not a worse one), a woman might have gotten her way by uttering just one sentence: Ladies ke haath lagalen? And whether the statement were true or not, the entire train would probably have defended them. I would probably have condoned a blatant lie under such circumstances.
Sincerely
Nishant.
Dear Sir,
I have read your post and all the given links carefully and all that you have said makes complete sense to me. Another report says that the mob consisted of 50 men and that is highly suspicious enough. Is it a mere coincidence that tens of lewd men gathered at the same time on a busy road and commit the alleged crime and willingly agreed to get filmed?
Of course, whenever you have raised questions about women’s responsibilities, the feminists have answered with a huge silence. Today’s parents relieve themselves of all their duties in the name of liberal thinking. I also know mothers who justify everything that their daughters do (partying mindlessly, dressing scantily…) as long as they top their class.
If all these misgivings are true, it is really disgusting. As Sayan has said, it will become very difficult to distinguish the made up news from the real news and the real victims will be the worst sufferers.
It is an open-secret among girls that many of them dress and behave in certain ways only to attract the attention of men and boys. And all of them take part in protest marches like the ones organized after this incident.
Sir, I have tried but did not get any information which can throw more light on the incident.
Warm regards
Rashmi
I know just what you are talking about, Nishant, that is why I mentioned that it is not young women alone who are abused on our roads and buses and trains... only, if it happens to be a man, he doesn't attract a tenth of the attention and loud sympathy, which is one of the many things that make me say it's an unfair world. Look at how little righteous indignation there has been over the murder of Pritam Bhattacharya! And you are quite right about the importance of living within norms (unless you want to be a revolutionary, and there are better revolutions to be brought about, I'm sure, than approaching nakedness and putting on sassy behaviour in public). Whether you live among the Jarawa tribe in the Andamans or in the Scandinavian countries, you can go about more than half naked, indeed, without attracting unsavoury attention. Someone was lecturing me about this sort of thing recently, assuming I know nothing about the world. I could point out that many others do many things in many places, such as eating raw flesh and fornicating in public and not cleaning up after defecating, very 'advanced' people too... is everything necessarily okay just because some people do it?
And Rashmi, thanks. Good to see that you tried. A lot of my readers pretend elsewhere (and there are some so-called journalists among them too) to be very well-informed, yet, when I ask to be informed, they studiously look away. Far easier to form opinions (especially politically correct and popular ones) on the basis of little and half-baked information than to work hard to find out the facts, you see. So it's enjoyable to chatter on Facebook and twitter, where all my friends are on the same moronic level, than to reply to someone's blogpost where honest, hard-nosed, well-checked-out information is sought...
Funny that it's been two weeks, and nobody has yet sent me a link or anything of the sort saying 'Here's something interesting about the case that you should know'. Instead, a lot of people have been yapping away here and on the other blog about my so-called views on the way girls dress, about going to pubs, and that kind of rot. I wish to God people could read...
Our St. Georges in shining armour always rushing to the aid of damsels in distress (aka journalists) seem to have absolutely lost all interest in the case - as a google news search just revealed. Very funny...
And as for the victim of the sensational Park Street rape case, she has now found a new person to accuse so that she can get into the papers again - this time another tenant in the house she lives in is 'pressuring' her to leave. Would it be such a bad idea if she saw a shrink, just in case she is one of the (very common) females who suffer from a deep rooted persecution complex?
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